March 12, 2015

From Lesbianism to Complementarianism

Posted in Random Interesting Facts tagged , at 1:59 am by sanguinemare

A great, personal article and testimony from someone whose life was touched by the Gospel and changed.

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September 3, 2014

“Romance” novels

Posted in Good reads, Random Interesting Facts tagged , , , , , at 3:32 pm by sanguinemare

I ran across this article on my facebook newsfeed today, titled “Fifty Shades, Twilight, and Teaching Young Women To Desire Abusers“.  The article makes the point that those who read Fifty Shades seemed to have more adverse health behaviors and were more likely to have partners with violent or abusive/unwanted behavioral tendencies.  I would have to say that the study is far from robust, and as it mentions itself, there is no temporal connection – meaning, there’s no way to tell whether it’s because people who are already like that are more drawn to the books, or whether people who read these books are more likely to fall into those behaviors.

Having ready the Twilight series (somewhat out of boredom) in my college years since they were a quick read and my housemate owned them, I don’t think the books are necessarily as bad as the article is portraying.  It’s a bit like how people cry “Stockholm Syndrome” with Disney’s (and theoretically all other versions…) Beauty and the Beast.  I think people are reading much more into it than is there, and is not what the consumers actually get out of the stories.  Although I will gladly eat my words if someone shows me a well-done study showing that kids or young girls have actually been psychologically damaged in looking for partners after consuming those products.

On the other hand, Fifty Shades of Grey is something else all together.  Out of curiosity, I did peruse a couple pages of the book at a bookstore once since it was everywhere for a good year or so… and I literally had to shut the book because I felt like my IQ points were dropping.  As the article mentions, it was basically pornography in written form – no substance, just random (and bolded!  What kind of literary book bolds and italicizes random moans/thoughts??  Which I guess answers the question… it’s not literary fiction at all) words and events thrown together with no rhyme or reason.  And it is almost not surprising then, that consumers of this type of work would gain a false perception of the world, much like the visuals of pornography does.

One of the comments there, written by Amy, said the following:

“Thank you so much for writing this. It breaks my heart to see so many women ensnared by this pornographic trash disguised as literature. As a teenager, I read this sort of garbage and it was incredible damaging and though it has been over a decade since I filled my mind with this disgusting stuff, it nonetheless followed me into my marriage and resulted in issues with my husband and me.

I would also encourage young women to be very discerning regarding romantic movies and even so-called Christian romantic fiction as it is blatantly emotionally pornographic and can be quite damaging as well. The unrealistic expectations, obsessive infatuations portrayed as romantic heroism, etc. are extremely unhealthy to ingest. You are what you read, so read well.”

I really liked what she said.  As someone who also reads fanfiction (not always of mature content) and has read romance novels, I know that I also probably have a somewhat warped view of the world.  Men are not all romantic, there is not necessarily someone who we are destined to be with and who will always be faithful, and of course, there is the depictions of intimacy that probably aren’t what most people experience (at least, not without a lot of practice and working together).  “Emotionally pornographic” is an apt description of the experience. So as Amy said, you are what you read.  So read well.

July 9, 2014

Songs from Retreat

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On a happier note, here are some uplifting songs that I really liked from the retreat (I’ve been listening to all of them, but especially the first one, on repeat since I’ve gotten back haha :])

I am not the same – Unhindered

Oceans – Hillsong United

Cry in my Heart – Starfield

Marvelous Light – Charlie Hall

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edit: oops, one more that I forgot:

Your Love Never Fails – Jesus Culture

The story of Mindy

Posted in Random Interesting Facts tagged , , , , , at 3:40 pm by sanguinemare

Another struggle that was shared during the retreat was the subject of lust, and how he did not want to look at or think of his sisters in Christ that way.  The frustration and shame were so tangible, and I think it resonated with a lot of the people, especially guys, there.  I thought he was very brave for standing in front of not just one church, but multiple churches in the area, speaking out about his struggles, and Praise the Lord that he felt he had to confess that to everyone, because getting it out and admitting it is the first step to healing.

So when I stumbled upon this article yesterday, it reminded me of this struggle that many people have to deal with, and it shows just how easy it is to manipulate a young girl to think that she would like to be part of that kind of lifestyle.  This is what can happen when our lives are not God-centered – we covet things and want to try things to fill a void within us.  It’s in our nature.  And I’m not judging here – I myself have seen how much I can fall without God as my center.  But anyway, I hope this article can also serve as a reminder that the people in these videos are real people, who are really affected by what they’re doing in their lives outside of the industry.  And the struggles follow them for the rest of their lives.  So instead of consuming what the industry provides, let’s pray for all of those involved, that they would come to know Christ as the only nurturer of our souls and the only thing we need.

The Pastor’s Kid

Posted in Random Interesting Facts tagged , , , at 3:01 pm by sanguinemare

Just ran across this article on a new facebook friend’s wall yesterday (we met during a youth retreat we were both helping out at this weekend). It’s about Barnabas Piper’s (John Piper’s son) experience as a pastor’s kid, and his new book, The Pastor’s Kid.  Pretty interesting stuff.  I think sometimes when we think about pastors, especially well-known ones like John Piper, we tend to build them up in our minds to be larger than life, and we see their kids, who look so kind and obedient on the outside, and think they must have a wonderful family life.  I know sometimes I look at friends’ families who grew up Christian, and think “I want that for my future family.”  But they tell me that it’s not all sunshine and roses – that they also have fights and issues that go on behind the scenes.

During this retreat, one of the pastor’s kids (PK’s) did actually speak up in the sharing time about his experience, and how he always had a lot of anger pent up and hated being a PK.  (I was not really familiar with this term before this weekend, though I may have occasionally heard it once or twice in the far past, now that I think about it).  This was coming from a boy that everyone just thought of as mischievous and who smiled and laughed all the time.  It’s so strange – how much we can all hide our true selves to the world behind a smiling facade.  But anyway, that’s what I thought of when I saw the article, and I actually would be pretty interested in reading it to see what it has to say.  Like the video at the end mentions, I think this would be good, not only for PK’s and pastors to read, but also for all of us to consider as well.

June 6, 2012

Interesting links

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Recently I’ve stumbled upon some interesting links that deal with relationships and marriage that I thought were at least interesting and some food for thought, if not outright good ways to view situations.  The 1st one is of the former, most of the rest are of the latter.

http://www.relevantmagazine.com/life/relationship/features/28856-beauty-vs-sexuality

http://www.relevantmagazine.com/life/relationship/features/22742-4-ways-christians-damage-sex

http://www.relevantmagazine.com/life/relationship/features/28942-who-submits-to-who

http://www.relevantmagazine.com/life/relationship/features/27749-you-never-marry-the-right-person

November 18, 2011

The 5 Fingers of Prayer

Posted in Random Interesting Facts at 9:17 pm by sanguinemare

I thought this was a good way to think about prayer (and what to pray for).   I’ve seen it somewhere long ago, but refound it as a repost from a friend’s blog.  Take a look at the 5 fingers of prayer:

1. Your thumb is nearest to you. So begin your prayers by praying for
those closest to you. They are the easiest to
remember. To pray for our loved ones is, as C.S. Lewis once said, a
“sweet duty.”

2. The next finger is the pointing finger. Pray for those who teach,
instruct and heal. This includes teachers, doctors, and
ministers. They need support and wisdom in pointing others in the right
direction. Keep them in your prayers.

3. The next finger is the tallest finger. It reminds us of our leaders.
Pray for the president, leaders in business and
industry, and administrators These people shape our nation and guide
public opinion. They need God’s guidance.

4 The fourth finger is our ring finger. Surprising to many is the fact
that this is our weakest finger; as any piano teacher
will testify. It should remind us to pray for those who are weak, in
trouble or in pain. They need your prayers day and
night. You cannot pray too much for them.

5. And lastly comes our little finger; the smallest finger of all, which
is where we should place ourselves in relation to
God and others. As the Bible says, “The least shall be the greatest
among you.” Your pinkie should remind you to pray
for yourself. By the time you have prayed for the other four groups,
your own needs will be put into proper perspective
and you will be able to pray for yourself more effectively.

-from http://spiritualinspiration.tumblr.com/post/8867980716/the-five-fingers-of-prayer

August 22, 2011

A new blog – Interesting Christian Tidbits

Posted in Random Interesting Facts at 4:33 am by sanguinemare

I decided to start a new blog today – one on any interesting things I find out or hear about the Christian faith.  I figure I’ll never have enough time to transcribe all my church notes, and it’s not much use anyway if I just have them squirreled away somewhere, so may as well post it somewhere where other people can benefit from them.  Plus, I’m really interested in the different ways the text can be interpreted, the way knowing the original Greek/Hebrew can deepen one’s understanding of the text, how the history and archaeological findings tie in with the text, and just any random cool factoids about the Bible or Christianity-related things.  So this will be a way for me to record all of those.

An example is the passage where Jesus says it’s harder for a rich man to get into heaven than a camel to go through the eye of a needle.  This was just touched on briefly in church today, but it made me remember how sometime last year, someone at church clarified the meaning of the allegory.  It seems like such a random choice of objects – a camel (of all animals), and a needle (sure, it has a small hole, but why not just say anything smaller than a camel?)   Apparently, the “needle” was actually a very narrow gate in the city of Jerusalem, which was the only gate that was open at night after the main gate closed.  It was too narrow for a camel to pass through, so only people could get through, and if they wanted to bring their wares with them, they had to wait until the next day.  That’s how I understood it anyway.  Wikipedia says something slightly different, but also suggests that no such structure has been found, so it’s not certain if that is true or not.  Wikipedia also suggests that this phrase may have been a mistranslation, and that camel (kamilos) was a misprint of kamêlos, which apparently means “rope” or “cable.”  Either  way, both make more logical sense than the initial interpretation of the metaphor, so I thought that was interesting.

Also, did you know the band Hillsong is from Australia?  I didn’t for the longest time. (Just happened to be listening to some of their songs haha)

That’s all for today!